Episodes 196
Avg. Duration 16m
Activity Highly Active
Since Oct 2022
Latest Episode Jun 2026

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The ‘After the affair’ podcast with Luke Shillings is here to help you process, decide, and move forward on purpose following infidelity. Let’s explore what’s required to rebuild trust not only in yourself, but also with others. Whether you stay or leave, I can help! and no matter what your story, there will be something here for you.

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S2026E194 194. Still Thinking About the Affair Every Day?

Jun 10, 2026 26m

It's been months. Maybe years. And yet somehow, you're still thinking about the affair every single day. You wake up and it's there. You go to bed and it's there. A song, a date, a place, a passing…

S2026E193 193. The Conversation You're Dreading: How to Talk to Your Kids After an Affair

Jun 03, 2026 16m

Few conversations carry more emotional weight than sitting down with your children and explaining that something has changed in your family. After an affair, many parents find themselves caught…

S2026E192 192. It’s Over… Now How Do You Tell the Kids After an Affair?

May 27, 2026 17m

How do you tell your children that your relationship is over, especially after an affair? This is one of the hardest conversations parents face in the aftermath of betrayal. The relationship has…

S2026E191 191. Do You Tell the Kids About the Affair? What They Actually Need to Hear

May 20, 2026 21m

Should you tell your children about an affair? It’s one of the most difficult and emotionally loaded questions parents face after infidelity. You want to be honest, but you also want to protect them.…

S2026E190 190. Stuck Between Two Lives? You’re Avoiding the Real Decision

May 13, 2026 10m

Why do you feel stuck between two relationships… and unable to move forward? After (or even during) an affair, it’s common to feel pulled in different directions, torn between a long-term…

S2026E189 189. Does This Really Justify the Affair? - When They Won’t Let Go of Their Story

May 06, 2026 12m

What happens when the person who betrayed you rewrites the relationship to justify what they did… and truly believes it? After infidelity, many betrayed partners are faced with a deeply confusing…

S2026E188 188. Why Infidelity Recovery Advice Is Failing You - You Need a Better System

Apr 29, 2026 17m

Why does so much infidelity recovery advice leave you feeling worse instead of better? “Process your feelings.” “Communicate better.” “Decide whether to stay or leave.” These are some of the most…

S2026E187 187. You Thought Leaving Would Fix Everything… But It Didn’t - Pt 4 of 4

Apr 22, 2026 11m

Does leaving a relationship after infidelity actually make things better? Many people believe that once they leave, the pain will ease, that distance will bring clarity, relief, and emotional…

S2026E186 186. When They Move On… And You’re Still Processing - Pt 3 of 4

Apr 15, 2026 10m

What does it mean when your partner moves on… but you’re still trying to process the betrayal? After infidelity, healing doesn’t follow a shared timeline. While one person may appear to move forward…

S2026E185 185. When You Leave… But Still Love Them - Pt 2 of 4

Apr 08, 2026 10m

What happens when you leave a relationship after infidelity… but you still love them? For many betrayed partners, the decision to walk away isn’t as clear-cut as it might seem. You may still feel…

S2026E184 184. It Didn’t Work Out Like I Thought It Would - Pt 1 of 4

Apr 01, 2026 12m

Can a relationship really recover after infidelity… or is there a point where you start to realise it won’t? After betrayal, many people hold onto hope that things can be repaired, that with enough…

S2026E183 183. “It Meant Nothing” Why That Doesn’t Make Betrayal Easier

Mar 25, 2026 9m

“It meant nothing.” It’s a phrase often said after betrayal, usually with the intention of reassuring a partner. But for many people, it doesn’t bring comfort, it creates confusion. Because if it…

S2026E182 182. It Just Happened. The Myth of the Sudden Affair

Mar 18, 2026 10m

When someone tries to explain a betrayal, one phrase often comes up: “It just happened.” But for the betrayed partner, this explanation rarely brings clarity or peace. Instead, it often creates more…

S2026E181 181. I Was Drunk… It Would Never Have Happened Sober. The Truth About Alcohol and Betrayal

Mar 11, 2026 11m

Alcohol is one of the most common explanations given after betrayal. But does alcohol actually cause infidelity, or does it simply remove the inhibition that normally prevents certain behaviours? In…

S2026E180 180. If You Feel Stuck After Betrayal… This Is For You

Mar 04, 2026 10m

After betrayal, many people feel pressured to decide quickly, whether to stay, leave, forgive or move on. But what if feeling stuck isn’t failure? What if it’s part of growth? In this episode, Luke…

S2026E179 179. Breaking the Reaction Cycle: How to Handle Powerful Emotions After Betrayal

Feb 25, 2026 8m

After betrayal, emotions can feel overwhelming. Anxiety, anger, shame and fear often lead to reactions that escalate conflict and reinforce pain. But what if the key to healing isn’t controlling your…

S2026E178 178. The First 30 Days After Betrayal: Don’t Make These Mistakes

Feb 18, 2026 21m

The first 30 days after discovering betrayal can feel like emotional chaos. Shock. Rage. Numbness. Obsession. Hope. Despair. All before lunch. In this episode, Infidelity recovery coach - Luke…

S2026E177 177. Intrusive Thoughts During Sex After Betrayal

Feb 11, 2026 11m

Many betrayed partners experience intrusive thoughts or images when trying to be sexually intimate during reconciliation, often images of their partner with the affair partner. These thoughts can…

S2026E176 176. Pacing: Why Rushing Your Healing Slows It Down

Feb 04, 2026 13m

After betrayal, many people feel an intense pressure to move quickly, to decide, to understand, to feel better. That urgency often sounds logical and responsible. But more often than not, it’s fear…

S2026E175 175. What’s Actually Essential After Betrayal

Jan 28, 2026 13m

After betrayal, many people believe healing means doing more: more processing, more understanding, more effort, more tolerance. But what if that belief is what’s keeping you stuck? In this episode,…

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