Becoming, by Design
Frances Paciente
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S1E13 Episode 13: This year, I courted a guy. I mean… I didn’t mean to, but I did. And here’s what happened
This year, I met someone unexpectedly.What started as a quiet, organic encounter slowly turned into something deeper—at least for me. There were moments of warmth, presence, hope, and also long…
S1E12 Episode 12: Waiting, Wanting, Wounded: A Spiral into Anticipation and Attachment
Have you ever spiraled while waiting on someone?Felt like your heart was holding its breath—hoping for a message, a sign, anything?In this episode, I get real about what anticipation does to someone…
S1E11 Episode 11: The Smallest Cage in the World Is a Fat Body
“The smallest cage in the world is a fat body.” -from a Tiktok video of Toogi and it got me thinking.In this episode, I talk about what it’s like to live in a body that works but still feels heavy.As…
S1E10 Episode 10: When Staying Alive Is the Bravest Thing You Do
TW: DeathThis one’s for the ones still here.For the ones who lost someone they deeply loved.For those who stayed quiet about the pain,and those who stayed anyway- one day at a time.In this deeply…
S1E9 Episode 9: Friendship Hits Different in Your 30s
Friendship in your 30s isn’t what it used to be.It’s slower, deeper, sometimes lonelier, but more intentional than ever.In this episode, I talk about people-pleasing, letting go of long-time friends,…
S1E8 Episode 8: When Rest Feels Like Resistance
They say rest is a reward, but what if it’s actually a form of survival?In this episode, I talk about redefining rest through my own story: from guilt and burnout to a bipolar 2 diagnosis that helped…
S1E7 Episode 7: The Space Between Where I Am and Where I Want to Be
There’s a space between who you were and who you’re becoming--where things feel uncertain, quiet, maybe even lonely.In this episode, I talk about how I’ve learned to sit with that space without…
S1E6 Episode 6: Learning to Love Myself Again and Again ✨
For a long time, I didn’t really think about self-love. I mistook validation for care, people-pleasing for peace. In this episode, I talk about learning to love myself - not once, but over and over…
S1E6 Episode 5: The Fear of Wasting Time
Ever feel like you’re falling behind in life?In this episode, I talk about the restlessness of comparison, the quiet ache of not “getting there” fast enough, and how slowing down changed everything.…
S1E4 Episode 4: Letting Go of Who You Thought You’d Be
I thought I’d be married by now.Maybe with kids.Financially secure.A different version of myself.But life unfolded differently.In this episode, I reflect on outgrowing old expectations, embracing who…
S1E3 Episode 3: Why Do We Chase Happiness?
For years, I believed happiness would come once I had more- money, beauty, success. But even after reaching milestones, the emptiness lingered.In this episode, I reflect on what happiness means to me…
S1E2 Episode 2: The Art of Being Alone- What Solitude Has Shown Me
Being alone doesn’t always mean being lonely. In this episode, I reflect on how solitude has shaped me—how it’s taught me to hear myself better, sit with hard feelings, and become my own home. It’s…
S1E1 Episode 1: Turning 30 – The Beginning of a New Chapter
They say 30 is just a number, but it feels like a shift. A quiet, unsettling, strangely freeing shift. In this episode, I sit with that feeling—unpacking expectations, unlearning timelines, and…
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Becoming, by Design has published 13 episodes since May 2025, covering topics in Personal Journals, Society & Culture.
Becoming, by Design is currently highly active with new episodes monthly. Average episode length is 7m.
