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The Sober Friends Podcast: Two Guys Talking Recovery
Matt and Steve have been sober for over a decade each. They still don't have it all figured out.
This is a podcast about recovery - AA recovery specifically - but it's not your sponsor's recovery podcast. It's two friends talking through the stuff that actually matters:
What do you DO when you're not drinking? How do you handle control issues 15 years in? Why does calling someone in recovery feel so goddamn hard? What happens when you remove alcohol but don't replace it with anything? And seriously, do you miss drinking or do you just miss the relief?
Every week Matt and Steve work through these questions together - sometimes they have answers, sometimes they're figuring it out in real time, and sometimes they just need to talk it out like you do with a friend who gets it.
If you're in recovery, thinking about recovery, or just trying to figure out how to live without alcohol as your coping mechanism - welcome. Grab some coffee. Let's talk.
Topics: Alcoholics Anonymous, 12-step recovery, sobriety, addiction, relapse, service work, early recovery, staying sober, and everything in between.
Matt and Steve work AA programs but speak only for themselves. This show isn't affiliated with Alcoholics Anonymous.
New episodes weekly at soberfriendspod.com
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Most of My Anxiety Lived in the Future
Send us Fan MailMost of us spend a lot of time worrying about things that haven't happened yet. We replay conversations, predict outcomes, and try to solve problems that may never arrive. In…
The Disease Model Doesn’t Let Me Off the Hook
Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Matt and Steve talk about the disease model of alcoholism—not as an excuse, but as a way to understand why alcohol affected them differently than it does other…
The Voice Didn’t Go Away When I Got Sober
Send us Fan MailGetting sober does not automatically make the voice in your head disappear. In this episode, Matt and Steve talk about the part of the mind that used to minimize drinking — you’re not…
Learn to Sit With Yourself
Send us Fan MailThere’s a weird part of sobriety where nothing is technically wrong, but you still feel uncomfortable in your own skin. In this episode, Matt and Steve talk about what happens when…
Stop Arguing With Reality for One Day
Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Matt and Steve talk about acceptance in sobriety — not as approval, not as giving up, and not as pretending everything is fine. It is about getting honest with…
Sober Twelve Years. Still Avoiding the Phone
Send us Fan MailMatt and Steve talk about what happens when old alcoholic thinking shows up without the alcohol. Matt shares what it has been like tapering off medication, including the dark,…
A 13-Year-Old Knew He’d Been Drinking
Send us Fan MailA 13-year-old goes to Six Flags and comes back with a story—she could tell right away that another parent had been drinking. No one told her. She just knew.That moment turns into a…
Why You Know What to Do… But Still Don’t Do It
Send us Fan MailEver know exactly what you should do… and still can’t make yourself do it?That’s what this episode is about.This week, Matt and Steve talk about the kind of overwhelm that doesn’t…
I Did Everything Right… So Why Is This Happening?
Send us Fan MailEver feel like you’re doing everything right… and it still blows up anyway?That’s what this episode is about.This week, Matt and Steve talk about those moments when life hits hard…
The Most Owned, Least Understood Book in Recovery
Send us Fan MailA lot of people in AA have a Big Book. Fewer people know how to actually use it. Matt was one of those people for a long time — and he's willing to admit it.In this episode Matt and…
My Drinking Had a Formula (And It Always Ended the Same)
Send us Fan MailNobody gets sober because they want to stop drinking. They get sober because their life isn't working — and somewhere along the way, someone handed them a set of instructions that…
Dr. Adi Jaffe: Getting Better Is the Goal
Send us Fan MailWhat does recovery actually mean? If you've ever measured your sobriety by days and wondered if there was more to it than that, this episode is for you.Matt sits down with Dr. Adi…
Drinking Felt Like It Fixed Me—Until It Didn’t
Send us Fan MailThat's the part nobody wants to say out loud. Alcohol wasn't just a bad habit — for a lot of us, it was a solution. It fixed the social anxiety. It fixed the noise. It fixed the…
Doorway or Loophole?
Send us Fan MailYou've heard it a thousand times in the rooms — take what you like and leave the rest. But what does that actually mean? Matt and Steve dig into one of recovery's most repeated…
Carrying the Message (Without Being Preachy)
Send us Fan Mail"Carrying the message" doesn't mean becoming Mr. AA or giving speeches at speaker meetings. It's not about recruiting, arguing on Facebook, or diagnosing strangers.In this episode,…
it's Not Your Fault (But It Is Your Responsibility)
Send us Fan MailMatt and Steve dive deep into Dr. Silkworth's groundbreaking work on alcoholism and why understanding the medical nature of addiction changes everything. They explore a fascinating…
Service Work in Recovery: You Haven't Been Nominated to Drink Coffee
Send us Fan MailService work in AA recovery isn't about giving back - it's about belonging, commitment, and staying sober. "I don't even drink coffee.""That's fine. You haven't been nominated to…
Do You Miss Drinking or Do You Miss the Relief?
Send us Fan Mail"I love to do things that will give me temporary comfort, that will make me very uncomfortable somewhere down the road."A woman with 30+ years of sobriety shared this in Steve's…
Outcome vs. Journey- The Control Freak's Guide to Sobriety
Send us Fan MailEver feel like you're doing everything "right" in recovery but still find yourself pissed off when things don't go your way? Steve opens up about his biggest struggle even after 15+…
Lowering the Bar - Why 'Just Staying Sober' is a Championship Win
Send us Fan MailIt’s mid-January, the "Pink Cloud" of New Year’s resolutions has evaporated, and for many in the Northeast, we are staring down a "marathon of dark, cold, and gloomy days". In this…
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