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Tony Overbay LMFT
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S1E474 What You Don't Know You Don't Know About Meditation (Hint: You Can’t Stop Thoughts or Clear Your Mind!)
Mindfulness isn't about emptying your mind or finally feeling calm—and believing it was is probably why you quit. Your emotions fire before your thinking brain ever catches up, which means most of…
S1E6 Murder on the Couch: When "I Did It For You" Is a Lie
A heads-up before you press play: this is a bonus crossover from my true crime podcast, Murder on the Couch, dropping into your Virtual Couch / Waking Up to Narcissism feed. It's heavier than usual…
S1E473 The Validation Paradox: Why Reassurance Can Feel Lonely
Your partner said all the right things. So why do you feel MORE alone than before you opened up? Welcome to positive invalidation. That strange ache—being reassured into invisibility—has a name.…
S1E472 It's Not About the Dishes - Trojan Horses Hiding in Every Marriage
The dishwasher fight you've had a thousand times? Or is it about the laundry, where you’re going to eat, making the bed, and cleaning the kitchen? The truth is, it’s never really been about the…
S1E471 You Can’t Cram for the Test of Life - Dr. Mark Redford on Flossing, Faking It, and Why Habits Never Lie
You lie to your dentist. You lie in therapy. And here's the uncomfortable truth — the patterns you think you're hiding are hiding nothing. Tony Overbay, LMFT, sits down with friend and dentist Dr.…
S1E470 They Said All the Right Things (and Nothing Changed): The Anxious-Avoidant Trap w/Mackie Overbay
Why do the same conversations keep "resolving" without anything actually changing? Tony and his daughter Mackie unpack what they call "mouth sounds"—when someone says all the right words, uses the…
S1E469 You're Not Bad. You're Carrying the Problem: Shame, Triggers, and Healing
"I was triggered" vs. "I chose"—what if both are true, and neither gets to the real problem? When a listener sent Tony a viral video challenging people to replace "I was triggered" with "I chose,"…
S1E468 Why "Me Too" Feels Like "Not You": Stop Fixing, Start Staying
You said, "That sounds really hard," so why is your partner still upset? It's called the Empathy Dash — that moment you touch your partner's pain just long enough to check a box, then sprint…
S1E467 Validation, Co-regulation, and Emotional Immaturity (with a Hint of Spirituality) w/Angela De Hoyos, ALC
What happens when your greatest strengths—your empathy, your willingness to self-reflect, your sensitivity—become the very tools someone uses to convince you everything is your fault? In this…
S1E466 Duty vs. Desire: The Hidden War Inside Your Marriage
Why does your spouse get to want things while you're drowning in responsibility? That resentment you feel watching your partner pursue hobbies while you manage everything isn't petty—it reveals what…
The Power (and Struggle) of Honest Communication in Relationships - Tony Answers Your Questions
Tony addresses a listener's question about feeling anxious due to a communication lapse with her husband. He delves deep into the nuances of relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of…
S1E464 Your Goals Aren't Yours—That's Why They Don't Stick (ACT for Lasting Change)
What if your New Year's resolutions keep failing because they were never really yours to begin with? Most goals we set aren't chosen—they're inherited from magazines, social media, parents, or that…
S1E463 The Family Butterfly Effect: How Your Uncle Ray Changed Everything—And How You Can Change It Back
Every family has an origin story—and it's not always the one told at holidays. In this episode, Tony explores the fascinating concept of the butterfly effect and how it applies to family systems.…
S1E462 Stop Managing Your Partner's Emotions: How One Couple Broke Free From the Anxious-Avoidant Trap
Have you ever found yourself calculating what to say when your partner is upset—choosing words to manage their emotions rather than speaking your truth? In this episode, Tony shares the breakthrough…
S1E461 Why You Fell for Your Partner (and Why You Keep Fighting Them) — Part 2
In Part 2 of Why You Fell for Your Partner (and Why You Keep Fighting Them), Tony Overbay, LMFT, continues the story of Jack and Jill — a fictional couple built from hundreds of real couples he’s…
S1E460 Why You Fell for Your Partner (and Why You Keep Fighting Them) pt. 1
What if the way you love — and the way you fight — were both written long before you met your partner? Tony Overbay, LMFT, reveals how your nervous system learned to react to love, conflict, and…
S1E459 Why You're Actually Fighting With Yourself (And Blaming Your Partner)—The Psychology of Projection
Ever wonder why your partner's innocent behavior feels like a personal attack? What if the stories you're telling yourself about their intentions say more about you than about them? In this…
S1E458 On the Other Side of the Couch: What I Learned Losing My Mom
What happens when the person who usually has the answers finds himself sitting in the unknown? In this deeply personal episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Tony Overbay shares his raw,…
S1E457 Would You Rather Be Liked—or True to Yourself? The High Cost of Integrity in Marriage, Parenting, Faith, and Work
Would you rather be liked—or be true to yourself? It sounds simple, but what happens when staying true to your values could cost you your job, your marriage, your faith community, or your…
S1E456 How Can Change Be Funny, Scary, and Uncomfortable… and Still Be Necessary for Growth? (with Mackie Overbay)
Tony and his daughter Mackie (@beautybymackie) catch up on a lot of life. Since the last time they hit record, Mackie has navigated big career shifts, health challenges, and new adventures. Tony has…
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